March Madness!!!

When you hear the term, “March Madness” usually people think of the tournaments, basketball, band battles and buzzer beaters. I went to Morgan State University which is affiliated with the Middle Eastern Athletic Conference(MEAC). In addition to the NCAA conference there are other tournaments that happen around or before march like the Center Intercollegiate Athletic Association(CIAA). If you ask me they’re all fun and all something you should not experience. So when I think of the madness of march, I think of those unsupervised days of road tripping to a college to cheer for my school team, mascot fights, and of course “Aiiiiirrr  Baaaaallll”. I think of meeting new friends from other colleges, arguing over gas money, sneaking into the female dorms and the parties OMG the parties!

If you ask anyone that attended and graduated college they will say attending college was the funnest time of their lives. For those that didn’t graduate, you may get a slightly different answer, maybe they went too far being unsupervised.

I was in school full time, about twenty something and slowly marching towards manhood with responsibilities involving; credit awareness, young women, buying dress clothes for work, time management, tuition and all those things that accompany being a man. It sounds intimidation but college is that next, possibly, final step to becoming a man or woman. College is that last testing ground during adulthood.

Please understand the possibilities that present themselves during or right after college; you could meet your wife, design your first patent, get you first corporate job, meeting your life long line brothers, start your own million dollar business, or buy your first house.

College or this time period is where you are basically designing what you are going to do with the rest of your life.

Whether it’s college, military, or starting a job, you are embarking on becoming a man. You are getting from under the supervision of your parents, you’re “on your own”.

Yes…that’s what I think about March Madness, not cutting the net, running on the court after a win or painting my face but the experience of college.

So yeah this blog was nothing about basketball. It’s everything about life. So get off that couch, stop playing xbox or playstation and begin to live life. Be eager to make a mistake to learn and keep moving forward and upward. You have youth on your side to go make mistakes and get better. Life is waiting for you. So…go to college, military or start your business but by all means, just GO!

3…2….1…Swiish!

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“I’ve learned one thing, and that’s to quit worrying about stupid things. You have four years to be irresponsible here, relax. Work is for people with jobs. You’ll never remember class time, but you’ll remember the time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So stay out late. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday when you have a paper due on Wednesday. Spend money you don’t have. Drink ’til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does…”  – Tom Petty

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Understanding the 2016 Oscar boycott

If you haven’t yet heard, there is a boycott of the 2016 Oscar awards by many of the black/African-American actors. This year there were no nominees of people of color. I think it’s important to understand what the boycott is about and also what you can learn from this event.
Before continuing first, I’m going to use the terms; minority, color, black, African-American interchangeably. I will also use the term boycott to withdraw from commercial or social relations with (a country, organization, or person) as a punishment or protest.
This is a very hard subject to discuss without touching on so many other issues involving perception, power, politics, control, and wealth. I’ll attempt to stay on course and not pull you into something militant or angry that dilutes the message. I believe, my reaction to subtle and obvious racism can be explained without it just being a emotional reaction. I would hope that our young men of color would have a different reaction based on their experiences. The younger generation may not understand the history and passively assign behavior to “the way things are”.   So when I explain the components of this boycott I want to try to give a better understanding of all the related pieces of this racial derivative that constantly affects people of color. My desire is that you come to your own conclusion after you’ve completed your own personal examination of a system that benefits from your existence but grants no honor to your contributions. My reasons may or may not be valid to you but they are MY reasons, find your own reason to boycott…or not, but do it for the right reason.
First, I haven’t watched the Oscars since Denzel and Halle won in 2002. Why? Well…let’s go back. The country had just been attacked 6 months prior on Sept 11, 2001 and all of sudden black people weren’t the most threatening thing in our society. It seemed ironic that all of a sudden we get, not one Oscar, but two! Oh it get’s better, not only did we get two awards that evening but the award went to the worst representations of black people.
Halle didn’t get an award for her portrayal in “Frankie & Alice” which was probably her best work, she gets the award that evening for “Monsters Ball”. A tale of a racist white man, Hank, who falls in love with a black woman named Leticia(Halle). Ironically, Hank is a prison guard working on death row who executed Leticia’s husband. Seriously?!
Moving on, let’s look at Denzel, he wins for portraying a crooked murdering undercover cop. Denzel was awarded for “Training Day” not for some of the other great works he has been in like;  Soldiers Story or Malcom X.
Based on the history of the nominations and winners, the award show has always endorsed or validated the most vile and subjugated examples of black existence.

And the Oscar for best actor in a lead role goes to…

Denzel Washington – A story about a black crooked murderer cop that trains other cops to be bad.

Forest Whitaker – A story about a vicious black lunatic paranoid murdering ruler.

It does not go to…Denzel for “Malcolm X” or Will Smith for “The Pursuit of Hapyness” or Don Cheadle for “Hotel Rwanda”.

And the Oscar for best actress in a lead role goes to…

Halle Berry – A a poor black Southern woman who falls for a white widowed prison-guard after the execution of her husband.

It does not go to Dorothy Dandridge for “Carmen Jones”, or Diana Ross for “Lady Sings the Blues”, or Cicely Tyson for “Sounder” or Angela Bassett for “What’s Love got to do with it”

Yes there are some winners that made us proud in their portrayal, like Sidney Poitier and Morgan Freeman and Whoopi. It’s just that all to common where we are validated with the most flawed representation of people of color. The role is always a role the establishment is comfortable with perpetuating.

If you’re a man, you’re always the representation of brute strength muscle or some comedic slant. You’re NEVER the intelligent lead character that the runs the successful mission. If you’re a man in some position of authority there’s always some blunder associated with your leadership.

You’re the guy the didn’t set the timer correctly in the mission, you’re the president that didn’t issue the command, you’re the prankster that is never serious.

I’m not saying that this is the case across the board in ever story line, but the majority of the time, it’s the African-American that’s either the most violent, or he’s killed first.

Some time you’ll see the sacrificial lamb saying, “Save yourselves!”

Save yourselves?! Seriously?! I’m trying to survive too…but that’s my point in this industry at every turn black lives don’t matter. That’s the message that’s constantly embodied.

Thank God for the yellow M&M because if there was a black one, I’m sure everything would be blamed on him.

So I say that to ask, why place value in a system that validates your existence as the least intelligent, most violent and lacking the capacity to efficiently fulfill any leadership capacity? I’m not talking about what’s correct, I’m talking about perception. Unfortunately, misrepresentation is a part of our culture. Since the movie, the “Birth of a Nation” and that movie’s depiction of black men, we have been constantly positively underrepresented and negatively over-represented.

Why watch “programming” that does not represent me?

Let’s continue, I haven’t watched the Grammys since about 2002 either. Why?! That was the year India Arie was nominated for 7 Grammys and didn’t win one…not one.

The last award that she could win was for best record of the year. I never forget it,

And the record of the year goes to Walk On -by U2.

India was crushed. She and U2 were both backstage waiting. When they announced U2, Bono and the gang were trying to pull her on stage and she refused. All 7 and nothing. I was mad, disappointed but I realized something in my anger. This was about control. India Arie’s album “Acoustic Soul” was positive. The songs, “Video, Brown Skin, Strength Courage and Wisdom” were all positive. Think about her message…think about what she was singing about. It’s not a safe place for the establishment to say to blacks that it’s ok, not to wear weaves, it’s ok to feel beautiful with dark skin. It sounds crazy but think about it… India Arie was singing melodic black panther tracks. It was lovely, it was nice and it was definitely pro black. It wasn’t anti-white, but when you have blacks thinking positive, that changes everything. Her musical affirmation was healing uplifting people and if the establishment needs to keep people broken you can’t endorse the philosophy, you can’t award that album. 

You may think, well…that’s a stretch. I don’t think so. When blacks are multi-billion dollar contributors to 3 industries; the justice system, the prison system and weaves. You can’t systematically endorse anything that aligns against billions of dollars.

The establishment will endorse a story about a submissive maid or a corrupt cop or even a story about a rap pimp and his prostitute girlfriend but it will not endorse a beautiful positive black person. India spoke about the loss and how it increased her fan base, imagine if her fan base, millions of women, all of a sudden stopped buying weaves and started focusing on positive things. That is a distraction from being the multi-billion dollars contributors that we need to be for this system.

“The real job in this world is to be you.” – India Arie

Getting back on par, boycott if you want but be careful.

So when you boycott something anything, be aggressively aware of what you are excluding yourself from or aligning with. The established actors that have double-digit millions in the bank can boycott because they’ve established themselves. Young actors, new to the industry, should NOT boycott unless they can deal with not being considered for an Oscar ever again. It may be career suicide for young black actors trying to get established. Those young actors taking this stance and boycott may find life a little harder. You can’t go up against the system that influences your career, you livelihood in hopes that they overlook your little protest. Also understand, if you’re an actor and you NEVER get an Oscar, then quite possibly you  will never get those Oscar paychecks.

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“To be a Negro in this country and to be relatively conscience is to be in a rage almost all the time” James Baldwin

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Learning how to lose is also a part of leadership.

Roger Federer, 26 years old and the 2008 Wimbledon Men’s finalist and top seated player on his way to a record breaking Wimbledon win, lost the match.

It was one of the greatest Wimbledon matches I’ve ever watched. It was that 2008 Wimbledon final between Nadal and Federer, about 62 games, 5 sets, about 7 hours of tennis, 1 winner 1 loser. I will always remember that match. I’ve only ever bought a tennis dvd and this was it. After his loss, Federer stated, “I’m disappointed, and I’m crushed,” “He played a super match, and I’m sure it was a great match to watch and to play, but it’s all over now. I need some time.” In defeat, fighting back tears…he was still gracious. Tennis is an individual sport but Roger exemplified class. This is probably why Roger is heralded as one of the greatest tennis players ever.

Daniel Cormier on Jan 3, 2015 lost the heavyweight UFC title fight to Jon Jones. This was an emotional personal fight. Daniel wanted this fight. Daniel felt that there was no way he could lose, but he did. After the fight, in an interview Daniel Cormier said, “He was better today, you know? He beat me. He won the fight. He’s obviously the champion for a reason and he showed it tonight.”  In another interview with watery eyes, he later said, “I’m going to face that man again.” I gained so much respect for him when he said that. I mean, he gave respect but it didn’t defeat him, yes he lost but he wasn’t defeated.

Daniel Cormier is now the champion and Jones is the challenger, scheduled to fight on April 23rd.
“Everyone deals with adversity. It’s how you bounce back from it.” Daniel Cormier

As this NFL season ended with its greatest game of the season, the super bowl. A 100 million viewers watched the contest of the best two teams. In those millions, there were 30 other football teams that were home watching the game wishing they were playing. There are 53 players on each team in the NFL. So there were about 1,590 other players that play 16 games in a regular season to get into the Super Bowl. Regardless of how much weight they lifted, how many practices, plays, injuries, there was to be only two quarterbacks on the field for the super bowl, and one had to lose.

I watched Cam Newton, the losing quarterback, hoping he could hold it together, be gracious. It’s a hard task for anyone in that position but there had to be a losing quarterback and it was Cam. Cam was the division champion, he had a phenomenal year but the Denver defense was incredible, they dominated. I felt bad for Cam, but I was more concerned about how he would manage this disappointment. He answered the questioned with as much patience as you can squeeze out of a losing spirit. He walked off abruptly, but he did enough.

I know as a young black quarterback there’s an extra scrutiny without the benefit of any sort of compassion, especially when you were confident, not cocky, just confident. The establishment is not ready for a confident black man. As a black man there are different set of rules for you, imposed by white and black people. There’s always going to be a latency of scrutiny with everything you do outside of other people’s comfort zones, white or black, ask our President. I’m not saying Cam was wrong or right in how he handled the press. I’m saying that, learning how to lose, is a part of leadership.

It’s not easy for anyone to accept defeat of any kind. It’s a testament to your character to pay respect to the winner. Cam did that. If they beat you, no excuses, no pointing the fingers, just be honorable in your loss, allow it to motivate you. Use the scrutiny to drive you to a bigger goal but always be gracious.

Understand the rules are different for young black men, but that’s why God made you black, because you can take it.

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The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

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Movie Review: “In My Father’s House”

When Caitlyn and Charlie from PictureMotion people contacted me to do the review, I was very skeptical. I didn’t think I could really provide an open-minded review while harboring assumptions about the movie. My assumptions had nothing to do with the movie but everything to do with the consistent reminders of the black male existence in America. My dilemma is with our never-ending challenge to find success in any aspect of our lives, while at the same time, changing the dialogue from defeat and pity to prosperity in a system of systems that are poised against us.

“In order to break a cycle you have to deal with the pain of what ever trauma that you’ve been through.” Donnie Smith(Wife)

They sent me a screening link, and I figured if I can get through the hour and thirty-three minutes it might be something to discuss.

ShareYourTruth-20I set up to passively watch the movie while doing my ironing for the week. I put up my ironing board, iron is hot, movie starts, I pick up the iron…

I didn’t touch any of my shirts, I didn’t iron not one article of clothing. I immediately put the iron down, picked up a pen and started taking notes. I watched the movie twice.

The movie makes the immediate distinction of what it’s not about; Rhymefest’s career, his latest album, another rapper grasping for any glimpse of that first taste of fame. For the first twenty minutes, I could not look away. If I would have tried to iron a shirt I would have burned it. Through my own research I find that Che “Rhymefest” Smith won a GRAMMY award for co-writing “Jesus Walks” with Kanye West. He’s also won an Oscar for co-writing “Glory” with Common and John Legend. The movie is not about that at all, but this movie is definitely his best work.

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“I started something that I can’t turn back.” Che Smith

This movie introduces the unspoken dynamics that exist at the core of the individual and most families. These issues are inherent barriers to a man understanding himself. Like Che, I had some unresolved issues in my past that needed to get addressed. I didn’t know my entire father’s side of the family until I was about 14 years old. I didn’t know why they never sought me out. When I met them, I learned and understood where most of my behavior and traits originated. It was like finding my dna, when I met them…I felt complete.

The movie embraced me on levels of masculinity that I didn’t expect. There were iconic images of fatherhood that made me appreciate the viewing; chess playing, the haircut, the dialogue.

“Sometime it ain’t nobody’s fault, it’s just life.” Che Smith

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The movie takes you through the painful cycle of homelessness. It pulls you into the emotional layers of single parenting, mentoring, juvenile issues, etc.   Every black child in America could benefit from watching this movie, but every person in America could reap an investment of compassion.

“I wish I was there more too.” Brian Tillman(Father)

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Most documentaries are factually rigid and the camera presence introduces a sterile entity that bleaches the ambiance of the movie. Ricki Stern and Annie Sundberg direct this movie in a way that you’re not led and you don’t follow. You are in the conversation as a family member in the story. I’m intrigued by the other endeavors of Break Thru Films. Kudos to these two women! Ricki and Annie are on a whole different echelon of filming, you rock!

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“The only thing I did good in my life was Che.”

Brian Tillman

http://www.breakthrufilms.org/films/in-my-father-s-house-showtime

http://hiphopdx.com/interviews/id.2710/title.rhymefest-details-in-my-fathers-house-new-album-how-kanye-wests-car-crash-sparked-a-movement

http://www.inmyfathershousefilm.com/#intro

February 5, 2016

IN MY FATHER’S HOUSE was nominated for an NAACP Image Award. Tune-in to TVOne on Feb. 5 to see if we won the award for Outstanding Documentary (Film)!

IN MY FATHER’S HOUSE will be available on DVD & BluRay tomorrow on January 26th. Please watch with the males in your family.

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