My friend Nadhege, a successful business owner, wife and mother sent me this tweet: “We teach our daughters independence then turn around & baby our sons creating self sufficient women & men who are ok living wit them.” Tweet by Kira J @IamKiraJ
The tweet accurately captured the sentiment of all the tips in this entire series. Nadhege didn’t stop there…she sent me a video clip that I want to share now: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMdkqW1Us/
I have been writing this series to help parents raise their son to be a good husband to his wife. Period
When people say, “It takes a village to raise a child.” I respond with, “How can a village raise a child when the men of the village don’t know how to be men?! I’m not saying single mothers have consciously weakened this generation of young men. I’m pointing out the attack on masculinity in the black household. Whether it’s fathers not being responsible to their children, or it’s mothers coddling their sons. I’m just worried about our youth that don’t respect anything. I’m tired of the excuses we make for our children and the honest conversations that we’re scared to have with each other.
My apologies for this vein of frustration but I’m just a little tired this month.
Anyway…the tip for this month…don’t give your child everything you didn’t have.
One response to “RAISING A MAN: Tips for single mothers AND fathers #6 of 10”
My brother Rob, thanks for the mention. Many are exhausted from the vicious cycle that plays like a broken record. But I commend your courage to stand on the front lines, in sharing your honesty and allowing your vulnerability to be your strength. It’s, not an easy position to lift the veil. We salute you to break the illusion.