Mozambique South Africa, the Circle of Life and my friend Pedro

Just returning from a diving trip in Mozambique, South Africa. The trip was nice.

I give you the Mozambican Channel

I give you the Mozambican Channel

Most people respond, “You just came back from diving in South Africa and the trip was “nice“…that’s it?!” Let me explain, I had high expectations for the diving but unfortunately our club visited Tofu Beach during the winter season. The visibility and cold water wasn’t something I anticipated but more importantly I couldn’t equalize during my dives so I stopped diving for most of the week. During our stay about the 3rd day, I realized that I hadn’t left the beach area and I could have easily been in Cozumel, Puerto Rico or Jamaica if I had not left the beach.  I felt like I hadn’t really appreciated Africa. I wanted to touch and feel Africa. So I rented an ATV for a while and ventured out in the countryside. I saw things the made me appreciate how great Africa is, the humility and greatness of the continent is something that changes you. It’s hard to understand or describe but it’s an energy that is significant, massive, present and humble. People have always told me that when you visit Africa it changes you. It does change you but it’s not overwhelming, it’s great and subtle at the same time, but it’s there.

Soccer with kids on Tofo Beach

Soccer with kids on Tofo Beach

During my stay the local street vendors would hassle the visiting divers to buy bracelets, necklaces, etc. It’s not fair to say hassle but if you travel, it’s just part of the experience. I got into a conversation with several of the young men, and I started mentoring, go figure. Any way I met George, Anton, Christoff, and Pedro.First, I told them, “You guys all have the same bracelets! You have to put Tofo Beach, or Mozambique on the bracelets. Remind people of where they visited, change it up a bit. You with the cashew nuts, as soon as the divers get out of the water, offer them a bag. The divers won’t have any money on them but they’ll be hungry. Get the money from them later.” We had a good time talking and chilling out. We played some soccer on the beach, I was now in Africa! I met a bunch of kids but something about Pedro got my attention.

 

Vendors

 

Pedro Vasco Milice Jije:

The next day I met up with Pedro.  He walked up and pulled me to the side and showed me the bracelets he made. He did exactly what I said and made bracelets with Tofo Beach, Mozambique, and Inhambane. Wow…I was like, “Nice! You listened to me.” He smiled and I hooked him up. We talked for a while and I knew we had a bond. Something in the way he listened and asked questions. I no longer felt like a tourist or visitor of Africa, he gave me a small purpose on the continent.

I think he said he was 21 years old and the 10th grade. I’m not sure if I got something wrong or there is a different system of education I’m unaware. He speaks English, Bitonga, Portuguese, Sissoua and Sagana. His hobby is playing soccer on the beach and he likes Rick Ross. We both like to watch UFC and we both want to be mechanics, funny. Pedro has 3 brothers and 4 sisters. I can say we talked for a bit. The next day he had a same humble demeanor and he smiled a little harder when I complimented him on his fly haircut. He wished he could visit the US and I told him I would see what I could do. I could try to sponsor him or something. It was a sour departure because of my new buddy. He said, “Don’t forget about me.”

Pedro and me

Pedro and me

I left Africa with new experiences; seeing lions in the wild killing a giraffe, flying down the fastest and highest zipline in the world,  seeing a whale shark, a manta and a breaching whale. Most importantly I’ll have memories of my buddy “Pedro the mechanic”.

 

 

 

Kudzi giving a presentation on island Guidnane

Kudzi giving a presentation on island Guidnane

So yes I visited Africa and the experience humbled me. I was humbled by the great friendships and connections made;  Tawanda the soap stone artist, Ernesto from Tofo Scuba eatery, Bitonga divers Paulo, Adamu, Kudzi from Guidnane island. (The first female diver from Mozambique and 1 of 2 females in Africa), and  Emmanuel the gardener in Soweto.

 

 

 

A video of us launching a boat off the beach for a dive:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gR0_k14y52c&list=UUYjQIIY_tSSlvy5roe2ekpw

There’s so much I could talk about but some things become a part of you that you can’t explain. I’ve inserted some pictures to tell the story. Ziplining in Sun City, meeting the Bitonga divers, Safari in Pilanesberg and sailing to Guidwane island.

If you haven't ziplined in Africa...you haven't ziplined.

Fastest and Highest in the world. If you haven’t ziplined in Africa…you haven’t ziplined.

Zipline starting point

Zipline starting point

Zipline ending point

Zipline ending point

Part of the beauty of life is sharing experiences becoming a better person because of them.

Casa Barry Workers

Casa Barry Worker

My circle feels like it’s expanded and there’s a deeper appreciation for my blessings. Now there’s an ever present concern for the state of the continent and the current exploitation. I will also miss my buddy Pedro Vasco Milice Jiji.

http://www.bitongadivers.org

 

 

Safari Warning

Safari Warning

 

Giraffe crossing during safari

Giraffe crossing during safari

Elephant crossing

3 Lions eating a giraffe 40 feet away from the truck

3 Lions eating a giraffe 40 feet away from the truck

 

 

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Leadership Profile: Albert Jose Jones, Ph.D. “Doc”

I met and became friends with a legend. It was an experience that fulfilled, matured and humbled me in ways that I can’t explain but I’ll try…

When I decided to get my Open Water scuba diving certification I wanted to do it right. I could have enrolled and completed an Open Water certification in a couple of weekends at any local dive shop and been done with it. Diving is a recreational activity where death is a definite possibility. That being said, I wanted get trained by the best.I figured if I’m going to risk my life, I’d better take as much risk out of the equation. Trying to remember what you learned in a weekend when you’re 100 feet underwater, didn’t seem like a realistically safe scenario.  I heard about Underwater Adventure Seekers(UAS) from a friend that lived in DC. UAS is a Washington, DC based dive club, founded on February 25th 1959 by Dr. Albert Jose’ Jones “Doc”. 55 years running for any organization, they must be doing something right.

UAS

In 1959, diving clubs in the area were reluctant to admit and train potential black divers, so “Doc” founded UAS. UAS is one of the first clubs in the US to certify all of its divers under the PADI system. When I started the certification it was supposed to be a few months long, but that year, my class was about 7 months long. It was worth it.  They taught me everything from swimming, to fins and snorkel, to diving. Our classes were at any one of the public pools in DC. When I attended class everyone was helpful and enjoyed sharing their wisdom. There was this guy teaching that everyone revered and paid deep respect. He was always watching…and they affectionately called him “Doc” . He wasn’t arrogant or full of himself, he was real chill. I always appreciate old wisdom, but “Doc” was so cool and humble, you didn’t have to endure long pontificating stories about himself. His stories had me wide eyed and laughing hysterically sometimes. I found that I could sit there and listen to his stories for days. Then one of our instructors, Jay Haigler, mentioned him as if he was a diving deity.

 

Jay Haigler

Jay Haigler

We all laughed but then Jay or Sylvester Smith (Sly) stated, “regular people know about Jacques Cousteau, but divers know about Dr. Jones (Doc)”. I thought to myself, who is this teacher that I’ve been talking to for the past 2 months? I had to look this old dude up. I mean he’s been teaching me for the past 2 months and I have no idea who he is. He NEVER bragged about what he’s done or where he’s been so I had to rush home to google “Doc”.

 

I did a search and pulled up the following excerpt from legends of diving website. That’s right I said legend. Dr JonesHeadshot

Caption from references below: “As a master scuba instructor (PADI MSDT #1031), Dr. Jones has amassed more than 6000 dives in more than 50 countries where he has spread his message of swimming and diving safety. Dr. Jones is a spearfishing champion, scuba rodeo champion, and an underwater photographer/ videographer. He has been recognized by PADI for his many accomplishments and his tireless resources to the diving industry. Dr. Jones was honored to receive the Scuba Schools International (SSI) Platinum 5,000 Award for logging over 5,000 dives and contributing to the development of recreational scuba diving in America. Dr. Jones is co-founder, former president, and current chair of the Science & Education Committee of the National Association of Black Scuba divers (NABS). NABS, organized in

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Doc back…been there done that.

1991 under his leadership, has formed over fifty dive clubs in the United States and around the world, many of them are modeled after UAS. NABS members and/or clubs can be found in Africa, Australia, the Bahamas, the Caribbean, Central and South America, Fiji, Hawaii and the Maldives Islands as well as the continental United States.

 

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Diver Alert Network Rolex Diver of the Year list

NABS has already brought hundreds of people to recreational diving and the association is destined to introduce tens of thousands of more people to recreational diving. Dr. Jones and NABS have been recognized in forty publications including the Washington Post, New York Times and the National Geographic, by NBC, BET, CNN, The History Channel and many local television stations. Dr. Jones was inducted into the Washington, DC Hall of Fame in April 2008, and he was the recipient of the highly DAN/Rolex International Diver of the Year Award for 2005. He was also selected as Sport Diver Magazine “Diver of the Year” in 2008 and selected as Beneath the Sea, Diver of the Year, 2009.

Dr. he Year” in 2008 and selected as Beneath the Sea, Diver of the Year, 2009

Through UAS and NABS, Dr. Jones and his team have trained and certified over 2,000 divers free of charge. In forty-five years he has taught over five thousand people, mostly children, to swim. His commitment to volunteerism comes from his belief that people who have something to give should give to others, whether it is knowledge, skills, or support. Dr. Jones, as an orphan himself, is aware that there is a world of people who just need someone who has faith in them and will show them how to accomplish. Not only did he grow up in a close knit community where many people taught him things and encouraged him to excel, but his teachers and coaches at Dunbar High school and Howard University trained him and students to be leaders who would shape the world and give back to the community.

Doc showing us how it’s done.

Another way that Dr. Jones fulfills this commitment is by visiting schools and colleges to speak with students about careers in oceanography and environmental sciences and about the sport of diving. He easily identifies with the students whose eyes light up as their curiosity and excitement remind him of himself, when he was a junior high school student, listening to a guest speaker talk about oceanography. The young Jose Jones decided that he too would become a Marine Scientist and explore the oceans. Dr. Jones, a seventh degree black belt in TaeKwon Do, also applies his standards for excellence and volunteerism to the marital arts. For thirty-eight years, he has trained thousands of adults and children in the Washington, DC area free of charge. His commitment to a high standard for training can be seen in the confidence and tournament record of his students. The Wheel Kickers TaeKwon Do club was featured in Ripley’s Believe It Or Not as “The Winningest Martial Arts School in America.” It is not unusual for his students to be accomplished in both the martial arts and scuba diving.

Dr. José Jones serves as a role model and mentor for many people of all ages, creeds and backgrounds. His leadership and standards for excellence have shaped many divers and emerging leaders.”

Sly and Doc giving us instructions during "checkout"

Sly and Doc giving us instructions during “checkout”

On my first diving club trip to Belize, my partner Alex said, “When you’re taught by UAS, you’re taught by the best.” All the dive clubs are great, but I understood what he meant cause I feel like I could dive anywhere.  I’m sure we all have met interesting people that we’ve admired, shook their hand, and maybe even had a conversation. In my lifetime, I’ve met men from all walks of life. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting men that were impressive, influential, accomplished but rarely can I say that I’ve had conversations, dined with or even dived with a person that was legendary. Doc has touched my life through his extreme example of leadership, commitment, and humility. I will represent and maintain his high expectations throughout my diving activities. Doc is one of five men that I refer to as an example in my actions. When I’m under water, I think to myself, “What would Doc do?”

Doc is one of the few icons of my life that I will cherish. This leadership profile connects to me at a deeper level, it’s personal. This blog can only scratch the surface of the impact of Dr. Jones. Not only on my life but many many other individuals. I will forever appreciate his exemplary mentorship and depth of character.

Later this week I will be in Mozambique, South Africa diving in the Mozambican channel. I want to put my new nitrox certification to good use. This trip is a dream come true, without UAS, Dr. Albert Jose Jones, Sly, Jay, Alex, Ernie, JB,  and all the other instructors at UAS the trip might not be possible. Dr. Albert Jose Jones is a leader beyond measure, an amazing individual that has impacted so many lives. It has been my pleasure to write this blog and be a witness to his example.

 

Me and the legend!

Me and the legend!

MPM

“What counts in life is not the mere fact that we have lived. It is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will determine the significance of the life we lead.”

Nelson Mandela

 

http://www.internationallegendsofdiving.com/FeaturedLegends/jose_jones_bio.htm

Click to access LegendsofDivingFreeportNews.pdf

 

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How to be the best father you could be.

Father’s day just recently passed and I got a taste of being a father. This weekend my girlfriend and I baby sat the baby “Zoe”.

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the happy baby Zoe

Zoe is one of the best babies I’ve ever watched, she is a “happy baby” as my grandmother would say. Vanessa and Myles were home packing and my girlfriend volunteered us for duty.

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Zoe and the person responsible for her kidnapping

During the brief time we had her, I started to think what kind of father would I be. I started to reflect on the best habits or traits I like about myself. Then I started to think about the traits that could need some improving, wooo.

When I thought more about it…the characteristics I reflected on were not originally my habits. Most, if not all, my habits or traits came from someone else.  What I mean is, throughout my life, I’ve come across men AND women who exuded positive traits that had a huge impression on me. My father was killed when I was about 2 years old and my grandfather and uncles step in to help my mother out. My mother was 18 and a high school graduate when she gave birth to my big head, that was a feat within itself. In the 70’s being a single mom wasn’t something to be proud of, luckily for me, the family nucleus was still intact.

I’ve heard stories about my father from uncles. I’m not going to say the stories were always good, I’ll just say I hope I don’t inherit some of my paternal attributes. The most influential people in my life were my mom, my pop pop(grandfather) and my uncles Rusty and Greg. They were the people who spoke to me the most. They spoke to me in words and in their actions. My uncle Rusty on my mother’s side (Voshell R. Smith) spoke the least but I followed his every move. He doesn’t smoke, drink, nothing. Everybody else in the family had some small “influence” not to the level of seeking counseling but most family members partook of the vices of purgatory.  Funny. My uncle Greg (Gregory Singleton) on my father’s side was very similar my uncle Rusty no bad habits, no drinking, smoking, nothing.

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My Uncle Greg and I in Bermuda

Both in the military and both had money, not rich but rich in moral character. They both were clean-cut and always had a job. There were other people too, women that help shape me into the man I am. I remember the OHA SSA in Baltimore, MD where I worked as a “Stay in School” student while I attended Morgan State U. There was Diane Mobley, Karen Carrington, Judy Long, Vernice Bernard, Terron, the other Dee. Those women kept me straight and they collectively embodied what being a woman looks like; classy, fly, dignified, intelligent, beautiful women. Judy Long was the real one, keeping it REAL. They were all like aunts to me and always held some level of distinction in their demeanor . Those women helped me understand what my role is as a man. They helped me fashion an image of my wife.

So yeah, being a father starts with more than just the actions of your biological father, it starts with the choices you make as an adult. What you value as a man, what you look for in a woman and how you allow your life to be an example to your child. We sometimes get caught up looking at the nonsense and replaying it in our lives. That’s dumb, get away from those influences! Look at all the positive influences in your life and soak them up like a sponge. Whether it be a man or woman, the positive examples are there. Take those examples and make them a part of your life. Be that father that you didn’t see growing up and allow your child to identify you as “Dad”.

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The baby Zoe gave me a glimpse of what it will be like, and I thank Myles and Vanessa for granting us this privilege for a brief time, that baby is awesome.

“If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.”

C.G. Jung

“Listen, there is no way any true man is going to let children live around him in his home and not discipline and teach, fight and mold them until they know all he knows. His goal is to make them better than he is. Being their friend is a distant second to this.”

Victor Devlin

“A boy needs a father to show him how to be in the world. He needs to be given swagger, taught how to read a map so that he can recognize the roads that lead to life and the paths that lead to death, how to know what love requires, and where to find steel in the heart when life makes demands on us that are greater than we think we can endure.”

Ian Morgan Cron

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What to take away from the Solange elevator attack of Jay-Z

When I was looking at the elevator video, I was thinking, “Why is Solange attacking Jay-Z?” As I was watching Jiggaman, waiting for the punch, I thought, “This is going to be bad, if he hits her…it’s a lawsuit.” then I had to consider that this is his sister-in-law.  I’m not an advocate of a man hitting a woman but let’s be clear, everyone has a threshold. After watching the entire video of the attempted attack, I was impressed. At one time, it appeared that Jay-Z was about to lose it, while he held her foot, but again he showed impressive restraint. Hov didn’t shoot, slap, punch, kick or stomp his sister-in-law. I was impressed that Jay-Z, rapper, hiphop icon from the Marcy projects in Brooklyn, NY, didn’t beat Solange down. The entrepreneur, sports agent, philanthropist, 500 millionaire, mogul, Shawn Carter prevailed.

In our world, the Jay-Z world, walking away or not retaliating promotes weakness. I’m sure in his 12 narrative albums of bravado he boasts differently, but in the civilized world where people don’t try to go to jail, Shawn’s reaction is the norm. Think about it, if Shawn Carter retaliates and hits his sister-in-law, what is the outcome?…criminal charges, lawsuit, attorneys, court appearances, money wasted, apologies, press conference and possibly jail time.

Wait, that’s if Shawn Carter hits someone, if you hit someone, there’s no press conference, no recorded apologies, you don’t “Run this town”, your black @$$ is going to jail. Period.Then you’re an ex-con, can’t get a job, jail visitation, you barely have 1 let alone 5 passports, you can’t leave the country. I say this because we see the examples of ignorance played out where someone loses it and hits someone. That’s assault, it may not be aggravated or with a deadly weapon but it is considered a crime if you hit someone. Yes it feels good and yes they may deserve to get hit, but for real, it may be the biggest mistake of your life.

Shawn Carter while sporting a white tux, solidified his image as a millionaire businessman, friend of the Obamas, owner of the Nets and more importantly a husband with a wife that depends on him and a daughter that’s going to need him. Shawn has responsibilities and intangible values that a husband and father shouldn’t live without. I feel like his reaction exemplified maturity. You, my young black man, have to be smart, intelligent, controlled and mature. You can’t “lose it”. So remember the Shawn Carter reaction more than any other images of ignorance you witness.

We can all learn from Mr. Carter.

MPM

“The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.”

Sun Tzu

 

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