I came downstairs this morning and do what I normally do…turn on Bounce TV.
On the weekend I usually turn on the tv and have it as ambient background while I cook breakfast. My pooch follows me to the kitchen and I notice the video countdown is on. I don’t have cable so this is the only “ethnic” video programming.
I was on #7 Mary J Blige was singing about how she’s tired of some man.
Then #6 was a song entitled, “My girls” by some female group…emphasizing the solidarity of her girls.
Then #5 John Legend talking about love; Family, Country, Heterosexual, Homosexual…love.
Then #4 Beyonce “Lemonade” the video was the “Queen B” walking around breaking up cars, windows, fire hydrants, singing about how she was betrayed hurt by some, you guessed it, man. I thought queens behaved a little differently but that’s just me.
Then Bryson or whatever his name was, talking about some woman that hurt him. This dude is about 20 years old complaining about a woman…please.
What number are we on? Solange talking about rebuilding and trying…wait, honestly, I don’t know WHAT she was talking about.
Finally number #1 Bruno Mars…he was partying about money, vixens, Vegas and Versachee(spelled it wrong on purpose). I actually like this song.
Ok…out of ten videos, what do you see? I’m not talking to you ladies, I’m talking to the young men. I’ll tell you what I see…a bunch of negativity about black men and this contentious culture with our women. I’ve done my share of hurting and disappointing women, so I’m the last person playing victim here.
My point is this;
- All women are not gold diggers.
- All women are not hoes.
- All women are not cheating.
- All women don’t dress like strippers.
- All women are not ALL women.
Regardless of what you see on tv, regardless of what may be around you, treat women with respect. Even if they don’t act like they deserve to be respected, respect them anyway. As a man you have to be the better person, you have to lead by an example of a gentlemen. You have to want better for yourself. If you can’t make someone happy or make their lives better, keep looking. Don’t stay there making each other miserable. Find someone that will appreciate you doing something for them. Sliding off topic…anyway as I said, “ethnic” programming…and that’s just what it is…programming. That’s an interesting word because that’s exactly what’s happening. Well, don’t let videos, tv, social media or the news convince or “program” you to be negative. Keep your perspective positive. Remember All women are not All women. Find that one that’s different and put a ring on it. I need to take my own advice.
I could be blogging volumes about all the other negative influences but I chose to take a bite out of this one.